1. Spend More Time on Foreplay
Foreplay refers to the intimate emotional and physical activities leading up to sex. Most women can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration alone and need external stimulation to start the “desire” phase of the sexual-response cycle.
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During the desire phase, your heart rate becomes faster to increase blood flow to your genitals. Your also vagina begins to self-lubricate, and your clitoris may become erect.
Activities like flirting, kissing, grinding, or role-playing can help create sexual excitement and prepare you emotionally and physically for orgasm.
Some examples of ways to try foreplay are:
- Spark romance by surprising your partner with a flirtatious note or call, or with fresh flowers.
- Set the mood using candles or music to create a sensual atmosphere.
- Enjoy physical touch, such as caressing, hugging, and exploring sensitive areas of the body called erogenous zones.
- Create intimacy by talking, holding hands, kissing, or giving each other massages.
- Explore erotica, such as reading erotic literature or watching consensual adult entertainment.
It’s important to remember that foreplay desires can vary, and communicating what works plays a big role in sexual satisfaction.
“Communication in the bedroom can foster intimacy, trust, and a sense of safety with one another,” says Lisa Lawless, PhD, a sexual health expert and CEO of Holistic Wisdom in Bend, Oregon. “By using words that show appreciation, love, and desire, couples can significantly improve bonding, sexual intimacy, and feelings of satisfaction.”
