How to do it: Okay, this one isn’t exactly a body position for penetrative sex, so much as it is a reminder not to forget about the curved sex toys designed to make stimulating your G-spot easier. Engle recommends combining toy play with oral sex: The giver can insert something like a stainless steel wand (she likes the one from nJoy), while also using their tongue on the receiver’s clit. And both partners can be in whatever positions are most comfortable while allowing the giver easy access to the receiver’s vulva.
Why it’s great: This is a pretty “optimal” experience for the receiver, Engle says, because you’re getting the benefit of a curved toy—which may be better than a penis or straight dildo in terms of accessing your G-spot—as well as the kind of external clit stuff that can only happen with oral (licking, sucking, kissing, etc.). Orgasmically speaking, it’s basically a best-of-both-worlds scenario.
9. Legs-on-shoulders missionary
How to do it: Just like the name implies, this position is a twist on the OG missionary where the receiver, lying on their back, lifts their legs up toward the ceiling and places them on the shoulders of the penetrator (who kneels and hovers on top of them, controlling the thrusting as in a typical missionary). The receiver can also start with just one leg on the penetrator’s shoulder if it feels like a hamstring stretch to do both, Rowntree says.
Why it’s great: “Raising the legs high narrows the vaginal canal while directing penetration toward the front wall, where the G-spot is located,” Rowntree says. Shallow grinding or rocking motions—versus longer in-and-out strokes—can ensure the penetrator is hitting not only your G-spot but also all the surrounding areas that allow for sustained pleasure, she adds. And as with other takes on missionary, you get the benefit of close eye contact that can dial up intimacy.
Understanding the anatomy involved with G-spot sex positions
The concept of a G-spot can be misleading, Dr. Tara says, as it implies that there’s essentially one button you push to feel a rush of pleasure. Instead, it can often be more like a general region, hence why she and other educators refer to it as the G-zone.
