Find Out If It’s the Real Thing or Simply a Crush

Key Takeaways

• This love quiz helps determine if your feelings are love by focusing on emotions like attachment, passion, and commitment.
• Being in love might mean you care about someone’s needs as much as your own and want to peacefully solve disagreements.
• Falling in love means seeing your partner’s flaws and still wanting them in your future.

Wondering if your feelings for your partner could be love? This love test can help you measure the emotions people feel that are associated with love, such as attachment, passion, care, intimacy, trust, and commitment. 

What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Honestly, a lot. Love is an important part of the human experience. There are tons of different ways to love people. For example, the way we would love a family member isn’t the same way we would feel love for a romantic partner. In the past, romantic love was mainly discussed by writers and centered in many well-known love stories. 

Fast forward to now, researchers have studied love and come up with theories on how and why we experience it. The jury’s still out on whether love is biological – linked to hormones and biology – or cultural – linked to social systems. It might be a little of both.

Research suggests that the hormone oxytocin, AKA “the hormone of love,” can have an effect on social behaviors. There’s also some evidence to suggest that the culture we grow up in can determine the way we view love and how we act in romantic relationships. Still, we’re all individuals who bring personal experiences into love and relationships. 

Turns out, love can also have an impact on our mental and physical health. Loving relationships with healthy attachment can lower our risk of heart disease, depression, stress, and even diabetes.

Who Is This Love Test For?

Whether you’re catching feelings for a certain someone or curious about whether it’s love or lust in your current situationship/relationship, this quiz is for you. It won’t tell us if we should stay in a relationship, but it can help us better understand our feelings. Each question relates to feelings associated with love. 

Being in love involves seeing the imperfections in your partner and still accepting them. Whereas non-romantic love is centered on the positive things you gain or aspects of them you enjoy.

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SABRINA ROMANOFF, PSYD

Is This Love Test Legit?

This love test is based on the feelings and experiences researchers and psychologists have identified as being associated with love. Each response corresponds to our feelings about love—a strong chance of being in love, likely not in romantic love, or not in love. To put it simply, yes!

How Do I Know I’m in Love?

Although researchers have identified common emotions associated with love, the feelings of love aren’t exactly one-size-fits-all. Here are some signs you may be falling in love with a romantic interest: 

• You don’t want to date anyone else! Chances are, you’d rather use your time and energy to focus on the person you have feelings for.
• You try to get through disagreements peacefully because you want to maintain the relationship and don’t want to hurt the other person. 
• You care about this person’s needs, interests, and desires as much as you care about your own.
• You feel grateful to have them in your life.
• Your feelings for them are consistent and just keep getting stronger.
• You’re interested in conversation and emotional connection—it’s not just about the physical.
• You see them in your future plans.
• You can have a disagreement, and your feelings toward them don’t change.
• You enjoy their company and look forward to doing the little things, even grocery shopping, with them.

Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.

1. Oxytocin and love: Myths, metaphors and mysteries. Comprehensive Psychoneuroendocrinology. 2022;9:100107.

2. Karandashev V. A cultural perspective on romantic love. Online Readings in Psychology and Culture. 2015;5(4). doi:10.9707/2307-0919.1135

Additional Reading

• Galperin, A., & Haselton, M. (2010). Predictors of How Often and When People Fall in Love. Evolutionary Psychology, 8(1). doi:10.1177/147470491000800102

• Langeslag SJ, van Strien JW. Regulation of Romantic Love Feelings: Preconceptions, Strategies, and Feasibility. PLoS One. 2016;11(8):e0161087. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0161087

• Robards J, Evandrou M, Falkingham J, Vlachantoni A. Marital status, health and mortality. Maturitas. 2012;73(4):295‐299. doi:10.1016/j.maturitas.2012.08.007

• Sorokowski P, Sorokowska A, Karwowski M, et al. Universality of the triangular theory of love: adaptation and psychometric properties of the triangular love scale in 25 countries. J Sex Res. 2021;58(1):106-115. doi:10.1080/00224499.2020.1787318

By Rena Goldman

Rena Goldman is a health writer and editor with over a decade of experience. Her work has been featured Medical News Today, Healthline, and more.

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